{"id":5250,"date":"2020-06-11T22:16:56","date_gmt":"2020-06-11T15:16:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.flokq.com\/blog\/?p=5250"},"modified":"2021-01-08T18:13:16","modified_gmt":"2021-01-08T11:13:16","slug":"guide-meet-your-indonesian-dates-parents","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.flokq.com\/blog\/en\/guide-meet-your-indonesian-dates-parents","title":{"rendered":"A Guide to Meet Your Indonesian Date\u2019s Parents"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_69_1 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/www.flokq.com\/blog\/en\/guide-meet-your-indonesian-dates-parents\/#relax-and-enjoy-the-moment\" title=\"Relax and enjoy the moment\">Relax and enjoy the moment<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/www.flokq.com\/blog\/en\/guide-meet-your-indonesian-dates-parents\/#engage-in-the-conversation\" title=\"Engage in the conversation\">Engage in the conversation<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/www.flokq.com\/blog\/en\/guide-meet-your-indonesian-dates-parents\/#cut-the-tension\" title=\"Cut the tension\">Cut the tension<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/www.flokq.com\/blog\/en\/guide-meet-your-indonesian-dates-parents\/#be-there-for-your-partner\" title=\"Be there for your partner\">Be there for your partner<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/www.flokq.com\/blog\/en\/guide-meet-your-indonesian-dates-parents\/#bring-them-a-meeting-gift\" title=\"Bring them a meeting gift\">Bring them a meeting gift<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/www.flokq.com\/blog\/en\/guide-meet-your-indonesian-dates-parents\/#take-the-bill\" title=\"Take the bill\">Take the bill<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n\n<p>Meeting your date\u2019s parents is a huge step in your relationship. This means that both of you are ready to take things to another level. Although this might be an exciting meeting, some may be nervous or even scared about it. It\u2019s normal to feel pressure as you\u2019re meeting your date\u2019s parents for the first time. You\u2019ll probably want to show them that you\u2019re a good person and that you\u2019re the right choice for their child. Giving your date\u2019s parents a great first impression will help you with your cause. But sometimes, a lot of people tend to get nervous around their date\u2019s parents and blow up their chance. You might feel a little bit worried that you might screw it up, but don\u2019t worry about it. We have made a guide for you in meeting your date\u2019s parents.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"relax-and-enjoy-the-moment\"><\/span><strong>Relax and enjoy the moment<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>When meeting your date\u2019s parents, be sure to be relaxed and not be too tense. This will make you seem more approachable and likable by them. If you act all stiff and tense, they might feel uncomfortable and might think they\u2019re making you uncomfortable as well. Don\u2019t be afraid of them and think of them as a normal person you\u2019d usually meet. Talk to them in a relaxed yet respectable manner so they don\u2019t feel awkward. Be sure to be enthusiastic about meeting them or your date might think that you are unhappy with meeting them. Be sure to be open about your life but don\u2019t dive too deep into it. Enjoy the moment with them as they might be your future in-laws.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"engage-in-the-conversation\"><\/span><strong>Engage in the conversation<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image alignwide size-large\"><img width=\"564\" height=\"376\" src=\"https:\/\/www.flokq.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/0d749abe3fd7d6aae113ad610446874a.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-5258\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.flokq.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/0d749abe3fd7d6aae113ad610446874a.jpg 564w, https:\/\/www.flokq.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/0d749abe3fd7d6aae113ad610446874a-300x200.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 564px) 100vw, 564px\" \/><figcaption><em><a href=\"https:\/\/id.pinterest.com\/pin\/239253798942205071\/\"><code>Engage in the conversation<\/code><\/a><\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>When all of you are conversing with each other, be sure that you are engaged in the conversion. Lead the conversation by asking them about themselves or open up about yourself. Indonesian people like to share so don\u2019t be afraid. Be genuinely interested in their stories so that they can see that you\u2019re a well-mannered person. Talk about sensitive topics that are not too over the line but are still personal. This will make all of you to bond together during a short time. Make sure that you listen carefully to all of the things that they have to say. Don\u2019t be shy to keep the conversation going because if you don\u2019t, you might have an awkward silence. You can talk about things such as how you meet your date or how your life has been going. Keep it low-key though as it is your first meeting with them.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"cut-the-tension\"><\/span><strong>Cut the tension<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>If you think that you are the only one who is nervous, think again because that is not true. Your date and their parents are also nervous as it is also their first meeting together with you. All you need to do is cut the tension and make an inviting presence. You can break the ice by cracking up a few inside jokes that all of you might understand. Don\u2019t show them your nervousness as it can make them nervous as well. Don\u2019t forget to cheer your partner up as they are having great pressure because you are meeting their parents. Be sure to be relaxed but not care-free so you don\u2019t\u2019 get stiff and make them feel tense. It may take some time until they warm up to you and accept you as part of the family. So until then, just take it all slow and keep on making them happy.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"be-there-for-your-partner\"><\/span><strong>Be there for your partner<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>A parent\u2019s has to embarrass their children in front of their colleagues, and this includes you, their partner. Your date\u2019s parents might tell you an embarrassing story about your date to break the ice. It might make your date uncomfortable but make sure you\u2019re there for her. Cheer her up by comforting her about it and saying that you don\u2019t care about all the stories. Tell them that their parents meant no harm and is probably very nervous. Most Indonesian families like to be a little bit nosy sometimes, so try not to share personal information with them. Respect your partner\u2019s and your relationship\u2019s privacy at all times. Try to deflect all of their attempts to learn private information about your relationship with your partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"bring-them-a-meeting-gift\"><\/span><strong>Bring them a meeting gift<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image alignwide size-large\"><img width=\"756\" height=\"567\" src=\"https:\/\/www.flokq.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/5-9-1.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-5256\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.flokq.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/5-9-1.png 756w, https:\/\/www.flokq.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/5-9-1-300x225.png 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 756px) 100vw, 756px\" \/><figcaption><em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/birthday-bow-box-card-264771\/\"><code>Bring them a meeting gift<\/code><\/a><\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Bringing them a gift during your first meeting is a great ice breaker. You don\u2019t need to buy them anything fancy or expensive to make them appreciate it. You can buy them a cake or flowers just to show that you care for them and you appreciate them. In Indonesia, it is common for people who are meeting for the first time to give out gifts. So this is the thing to do when you\u2019re about to meet up. Think about what are you going to buy to make sure that you don\u2019t but it at the last minute. Make sure to consult your partner about what things you should buy and what things you should avoid. You can also make something for them like baking them a cake. As long as it comes from the heart, they\u2019ll see it.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"take-the-bill\"><\/span><strong>Take the bill<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>A lot of Indonesian people won\u2019t acknowledge this, but they are very proud of themselves. They will all tough but are very soft inside. This reflects on the way on how they pay their food bill. Most people would offer to pay for the bill even though they don\u2019t want to. This is where you come in. Offer them to pay the bill so you can show that you have a nice heart. This will also show them that you can provide their child financially. If they still refuse, make sure to tell them that you\u2019ll pay the next time you meet. This will make them respect you even more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So this is the guide to meet your Indonesian date\u2019s parents. We hope this list can help you when you meet them in the future.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Meeting your date\u2019s parents is a huge step in your relationship. 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